Easing the Tween Transition

“Let no one have contempt for your youth, but set an example for those who believe,
in speech, conduct, love, faith and purity.”
1 Timothy 4:12
Those pivotal tween years. So many social, emotional and physical changes, jam-packed into so few years of life. It’s hard to tell who has a harder time navigating the passage out of “little girl” into “young woman”: the girls experiencing it, or their parents! Encouraging a healthy self-esteem and a godly character is no easy task in today’s world. Here are a few ways to deepen your relationship with your tween while helping her thrive and grow into her gifts!
  1. Encourage her spiritual gifts. Remember, she’ll place importance on the things you praise her for. Do you praise her for what’s on her insides? Or what’s on her outsides? If she plays a sport, do you praise her for winning (less important) or for her team spirit and dedication (more important)? Does she excel at less tangible things, like serving others, speaking optimistically, or faithfulness in prayer? Notice and thank her for the gifts of grace and the spirit! You can find the Fruit of the Spirit character traits here: Galatians 5:22-23.
  2. Give her a place to process her joys, worries and thoughts: a room that reflects her unique personality. Has she outgrown the pony-themed bedspread she loved when she was six? Just a few small changes in decor (“lipstick and rouge”) can make all the difference. With our Bible-themed affirmation pillows, she’ll enjoy the best of both worlds: style AND faith.
  3. Guide her into a deeper prayer life. At this age, she’s ready to move from outward devotion (like paying attention in church) to inward devotion (prayer of the heart). Value her creativity along with her faith to start her along the road of personal reflection and quiet contemplation. Check out our free Shine coloring pages--perfect little mini-devotionals for tweens who love to color!
  4. Tell her in words what she means to you. You might think she knows how you feel about her… but does she really? They say to preach the Gospel and, when necessary, use words. The thing is that it’s necessary to use words way more often than we think. Words have a huge impact. Even a short, handwritten note will bring hope into a gloomy day and open positive lines of communication. Use our affirmation pillows and note cards to praise her for being the wonderful, awesome self God designed her to be!
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